com·mis·er·a·tion
kəˌmizəˈrāSHən
noun
plural noun: commiserations
- 1.sympathy and sorrow for the misfortunes of others; compassion."the other actors offered him clumsy commiseration"
synonyms: condolence(s), sympathy, pity, comfort, solace, consolation; More
informalpity party"a little commiseration may be the most important thing you can offer" - 2.expressions of sympathy and sorrow for another."our commiserations to those who didn't win
Sometimes life plays funny tricks on you, but if you think about most times, we saw them coming or had a glimpse that the end result was in the making from the very beginning. Being the impulsive and emotion controlled beings most of us are, it is impossible to avoid some of the mishaps we suffer in our lives and loves. Thinking with only our head or only our heart leads us to the wrong place in whatever way we take it. Life needs to be about balance, and using that balance to the best of our abilities to get to the place we need and want to be. Not taking risks means staying in a safe place, and I can certainly understand why so many stay in that safe and secure place. They took risks in the past and ended up in a place or situation that was so hurtful that they never wanted to stray down that horrible venue ever again in their lives. The truth of the matter is, even in those awful, horrid and hurtful times, we learn lessons if we can look at the situation later down the road and be objective about the whole darned thing. Thinking about the whole thing when one is in a state of emotional upheaval can often only hurt us more and lead to an even worse place than we were in to begin with. I think of putting it on the shelf for a bit, waiting until one is in a better state of mind and heart. You see, its not just about the mind, its about the heart also.
Often when I write these little commiserations, I write them from a recent experience or from a past one. I often am writing as I have done the same thing once again, though in a slightly different mode, and have ended up with the same result. I am not downing or doubting my self, merely pondering on what I need to do differently going forward, as well as gleaning the life lesson from the situation. I like to think as life as a set of scales, you know the ones like the typical Greek type statue of justice as a female form with an askew blinder over her eyes. I like to frame my thoughts for others to get a better grasp of just where I am coming from. The problem is, one cannot know where they are going to from that point. One can certainly attempt to steer your own voyage, but the Universe and other players in our own vignettes can most definitely effect the ending result or outcome . So, one plans as well as they are able to, and hopefully goes forth hoping for the best to occur with and for them. Also what we can fail to realize, is how our own choices may effect the outcomes of others in their life's journeys. The humanistic me wants to not harm others, but their comes a point in self preservation on oneself and sanity that you may well have to hurt someone without truly wanting to, but there is not another path or choice to make in said situation.
In sharing our misfortune or pain, it assists us in getting to the next level in healing. Part of it certainly is about the self, for to truly live one has to take the best care of the self on all levels, physical, emotional and spiritual, that one is capable of. So, yes indeed folks, some of this is self centered and egocentric. Often in sharing of ourselves others can be assisted when they have gone through a similar situation in their own life. For me, it helps in my understanding of what I have gone through to think that sharing my own plight might help another in what they are experiencing. There are many things much too painful or difficult to share with anyone but the most trusted in one's life. I certainly understand and respect that need to preserve ones privacy and keep shut like a clam ones thoughts. Being a glass half full kinda gal, I think in a forward thinking fashion almost 100% of the time. In my life I have experienced the gamut of sadness and happiness, and can name easily the most difficult and the happiest times in my life. Sharing both and embracing what we experience in our lives can assist us in getting where we need to be with the best ease we can.
~~~Balance in all things~~~
